Bitterness

Bitterness

Forgiving does not erase the bitter past. A healed memory is not a deleted memory. Instead, forgiving what we cannot forget creates a new way to remember. We change the memory of our past into a hope for our future.

Lewis B. Smedes

Bitterness usually starts out small. Someone says something that stings, and the offense burns its way into your heart. You replay the offense—to yourself and out loud to others. Slowly, resentment builds, and layers of hurt harden into unforgiveness. Sometimes you try to hide your feelings, but bitterness slips into every part of your life, causing a rift in your relationship with the person who hurt you and with Me.

Meditate on Romans 12:18 and apply it to your situation: “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone” (NIV). Bitterness is dispelled by forgiveness, but it’s especially difficult when the offending person doesn’t know how deeply you’ve been wounded, or when he or she simply doesn’t care. Forgiveness doesn’t negate the wrong done to you, but it frees you from anger, backbiting, harsh comments, and bitterness. It allows you to live unencumbered, with joy and confidence. Ask Me to heal your memories of hurtful words and offensive or abusive treatment. Focus on the future, not the past.

Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior.

Ephesians 4:31