Discipline

Discipline

MY QUESTION for GOD

How should I handle discipline among Christians?

A MOMENT with GOD

If another believer sins against you, go privately and point out the offense. If the other person listens and confesses it, you have won that person back. But if you are unsuccessful, take one or two others with you and go back again, so that everything you say may be confirmed by two or three witnesses. If the person still refuses to listen, take your case to the church. Then if he or she won’t accept the church’s decision, treat that person as a pagan or a corrupt tax collector.

Matthew 18:15-17

Most of you opposed him, and that was punishment enough. Now, however, it is time to forgive and comfort him.

2 Corinthians 2:6-7

When we think of discipline, we often think of punishment. But that is only a small part of the biblical concept of discipline. Discipline in the Bible is goal oriented: It is meant to help and motivate someone to walk in a closer relationship with God. We tend to think of discipline in a negative way—it keeps people in line and stops bad behavior. But the true heart of discipline is positive—it disciples people, helping people become followers, particularly followers of Christ. The emphasis should be on loving guidance and teaching.

If another believer has sinned against you or fallen into a sinful habit, then go to that person and confront him or her in private. If the person won’t listen, and you are convinced there is still a problem, go back with one or two others who feel the same way. If the person still refuses to listen or make any changes, take the matter to the church leaders. Christians who are not repentant should not be treated as though everything is all right. They need to be warned of the consequences of their continued sin. However, if the person chooses to repent, forgiveness and comfort are in order. Don’t shut out someone who is genuinely repentant. Remember that the goal of discipline is not to judge or condemn but to correct and reconcile so everyone can live in harmony. As difficult as this may be, it is better than the alternatives: cutting off the relationship altogether due to anger or resentment, seeking revenge, or gossiping about the other person’s sin. None of these results are healthy for individuals or for the greater community.

DIVINE PROMISE

MY CHILD, DON’T REJECT THE LORD’S DISCIPLINE. . . . FOR THE LORD CORRECTS THOSE HE LOVES.   Proverbs 3:11-12