How can quarreling harm to relationships?

Genesis 16:5Then Sarai said to Abram, “This is all your fault! I put my servant into your arms, but now that she’s pregnant she treats me with contempt. The Lord will show who’s wrong—you or me!”

Proverbs 10:12Hatred stirs up quarrels, but love makes up for all offenses.

Proverbs 13:10Pride leads to conflict; those who take advice are wise.

Proverbs 22:10Throw out the mocker, and fighting goes, too. Quarrels and insults will disappear.

Proverbs 26:20-21Fire goes out without wood, and quarrels disappear when gossip stops. A quarrelsome person starts fights as easily as hot embers light charcoal or fire lights wood.

Proverbs 30:33As the beating of cream yields butter and striking the nose causes bleeding, so stirring up anger causes quarrels.

1 Corinthians 3:3-4You are jealous of one another and quarrel with each other. Doesn’t that prove you are controlled by your sinful nature? Aren’t you living like people of the world? When one of you says, “I am a follower of Paul,” and another says, “I follow Apollos,” aren’t you acting just like people of the world?

James 4:2You want what you don’t have, so you scheme and kill to get it. You are jealous of what others have, but you can’t get it, so you fight and wage war to take it away from them. Yet you don’t have what you want because you don’t ask God for it.

Quarreling is often a symptom of relational problems, such as hatred, anger, jealousy, pride, immaturity, gossip, and ridicule. If those issues are unresolved, the relationships affected will be harmed irreparably.

Proverbs 17:1Better a dry crust eaten in peace than a house filled with feasting—and conflict.

Proverbs 19:13A foolish child is a calamity to a father; a quarrelsome wife is as annoying as constant dripping.

Proverbs 21:19It’s better to live alone in the desert than with a quarrelsome, complaining wife.

Proverbs 25:24It’s better to live alone in the corner of an attic than with a quarrelsome wife in a lovely home.

Proverbs 27:15A quarrelsome wife is as annoying as constant dripping on a rainy day.

Mark 3:24“A kingdom divided by civil war will collapse.”

John 17:21“I [Jesus] pray that they will all be one, just as you and I are one—as you are in me, Father, and I am in you. And may they be in us so that the world will believe you sent me.”

Acts 15:37-40Barnabas agreed and wanted to take along John Mark. But Paul disagreed strongly, since John Mark had deserted them in Pamphylia and had not continued with them in their work. Their disagreement was so sharp that they separated. Barnabas took John Mark with him and sailed for Cyprus. Paul chose Silas, and as he left, the believers entrusted him to the Lord’s gracious care.

Galatians 5:15If you are always biting and devouring one another, watch out! Beware of destroying one another.

2 Timothy 2:14Remind everyone about these things, and command them in God’s presence to stop fighting over words. Such arguments are useless, and they can ruin those who hear them.

2 Timothy 2:16-17Avoid worthless, foolish talk that only leads to more godless behavior. This kind of talk spreads like cancer, as in the case of Hymenaeus and Philetus.

Quarreling can lead to ungodliness, loss of unity, destruction of community, unpleasant companionship, separation, and estrangement. Quickly solving and avoiding quarrels will help prevent these other problems.