Praise Your Wife - Solomon

You are beautiful, my darling, like the lovely city of Tirzah. Yes, as beautiful as Jerusalem, as majestic as an army with billowing banners.

Song Of Solomon 6:4

Many longtime wives complain that their husbands take them for granted. They worry that the excitement has vanished from their marriage and that the passion, spontaneity, and fun have faded away. The mundane and day-to-day routines have taken over.

Solomon understood the value of speaking passionately to his beloved Shulamite woman. He knew that in expressing his deepest feelings for her, he could bless her and stir up passion between them.

The Song of Solomon overflows with words of love, affection, intimacy, and passion. Precious terms of endearment flew back and forth between Solomon and his beloved. The words that Solomon and his lover spoke to one another model the kind of intimate communication you can enjoy with your wife.

Of course, it’s probably a good idea to speak your own words as you express how much your wife means to you, but take careful note of the poetic, sensual, concrete way in which Solomon spoke words of love to his mate. Such words are personal and thoughtful.

Take the lead, husband! Ponder what you find most valuable, beautiful, admirable, and sexy about your wife, and then make a point of telling her how much you like what you see.

As the old song goes, “Accentuate the positive . . . eliminate the negative.” You won’t regret it!

How do you rate the passion and fun in your marriage? Would you say that it’s red hot, still glowing, a fading ember, growing cold, or a pile of ashes? To help bring back the flame, regularly speak words of appreciation and love to the wife God has given you. Take time to compliment her, and affirm her inward and outward beauty. Make doubly sure that you speak those words out of genuine desire to affirm her and build her up.