Avoiding A Wardrobe Malfunction

Avoiding a Wardrobe Malfunction

He explained to me, “Daniel, I have come here to give you insight and understanding.”

Daniel 9:22

April 2 is celebrated as International Children’s Book Day. You may not have known that, but you probably know the children’s story about the emperor with a major wardrobe malfunction. It was penned by Danish writer Hans Christian Andersen (today is also his birthday), and it bears repeating for the fact that it contains a simple message for couples who want to grow.

It is the story of an emperor who was passionate about clothing. Everyone knew about the emperor’s love of clothing, and before long two con men appeared on the scene looking to make a fast buck with a clever idea.

The con men announced that they were the world’s best tailors and could make wonderful garments for the emperor—clothing such as had never been seen before. There were two catches, they said. First, the price tag for such royal garments would be exorbitant; and second, stupid men, unfit for their jobs, would not even be able to see the fabric out of which the clothes were made. If fabulous new clothes weren’t enticing enough, now the emperor wanted these new clothes so that he could find out who was not fit to be serving him.

After collecting a huge fee, the con men went to work, miming the actions of tailors. The emperor was measured and fitted, refitted and remeasured. The kingdom waited breathlessly for the day when the emperor would appear in his new clothing, for word about the enchanted fabric had spread. Finally the day came and the emperor was dressed in his new clothes. Everyone complimented the emperor on his stunning appearance as he strolled regally through his capital city.

Unbeknownst to his people, however, the emperor was having some doubts about his own fitness for his job. He couldn’t see his new clothes. Knowing that he could not allow his people to see his own consternation, he went along with the act. The crowd, struggling with the same doubts, acted more and more enthralled with his new outfit. Then suddenly, from somewhere back in the crowd, a young boy shouted, “The emperor has no clothes!”

The emperor was horrified. The crowd was dismayed. But slowly it began to dawn on everyone present that the child had told the truth. Sure enough, the emperor was wearing only his underwear.

And so was born a lesson for all who seek the truth: without honest feedback we live an illusion. Have you been afraid to admit that you need feedback? If you want to gain a little insight and understanding about yourself today, try asking your spouse the simple question, “What is one thing I could do to be a better husband/wife?” Who knows, your spouse may surprise you with just the insight you need to be your best.

Feedback is the breakfast of champions.

—Rick Tate