Unresolved Conflicts

Unresolved Conflicts

Starting a quarrel is like opening a floodgate, so stop before a dispute breaks out.

Proverbs 17:14

WHY IS IT SO IMPORTANT to resolve conflicts? Because unresolved conflicts stand as barriers to a couple’s unity. Conflicts arise over those issues about which we have differences and where we both feel that our side is right. If we don’t find a way to meet in the middle, we become enemies instead of teammates, and life becomes a battlefield. The proverb above reminds us that starting a quarrel or an argument can often lead to places we didn’t mean to go. It’s always better to try to resolve things before they get heated. Few people like to fight. So if conflicts continue, sooner or later someone gives up and walks away.

How sad that thousands of relationships end because couples never learn to resolve conflicts. The first step is to get out of the “arguing mode” and get into the “understanding mode.” Stop trying to win an argument and start trying to understand each other.

Lord, you know the areas of conflict between me and the one I love. We need your grace to resolve these things without continual arguing and battling. Help me to seek first and foremost to understand my spouse.

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