Be A Conflict Resolver

Be a Conflict Resolver

Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged.

1 Corinthians 13:4-5

WHY DO PEOPLE ARGUE? In one word, rigidity. When we argue, in essence we are saying, “My way is the right way. If you don’t do it my way, I’ll make your life miserable.” The arguer insists on getting his or her own way.

Conflict resolvers have a different attitude. They say, “I’m sure we can work this out in a way that will be positive for both of us. Let’s think about it together.” They look for a win-win resolution. They begin by respecting each other’s ideas and looking for a solution instead of trying to win an argument.

The Scriptures say that love “does not demand its own way.” Love is not proud, either, so it doesn’t consider its way best. Actually, love means looking out for the other person’s interest. Philippians 2:4 says, “Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too.” “What would be best for you?” is the question of love.

Father, I want to stop being an arguer and start being a conflict resolver. Help me to think first of my spouse and second of myself. Help me not to demand what I want but to look for a solution that will work for both of us. I need your help to combat my innate selfishness.

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