The Pushmi-pullyu Of Perfection - Mr. Perfect

The Pushmi-Pullyu of Perfection - Mr. Perfect

I CONSIDERED including only three words in this entry: He doesn’t exist.

But I decided that some of you clearly need a bit more explanation. I know this because I’ve read your want ads:

I’ve read the want ads from my married girlfriends too:

Whether single or married, the pushmi-pullyu of perfection can turn a high-achieving woman’s quest for Mr. Right into a never-ending search for Mr. Perfect. I’m afraid we often rule out or wring out our Mr. Rights as we look for the perfect man to fulfill our vision of a perfect relationship.

Am I asking you to settle? You know I never would! But our pushmi-pullyu of perfection in our relationships is often way out of control, with expectations that can never be filled. What I’m asking is for you to consider rewriting your want ad, taking into consideration those attributes that define your man more than those that would refine him. What would happen to your love affair if you wrote:

And I will give you a new heart, and I will put a new spirit in you. I will take out your stony, stubborn heart and give you a tender, responsive heart. (Ezekiel 36:26)

Rewrite your want ad and take another long look at Mr. Right. Don’t let your pushmi-pullyu of perfection drive him crazy too.