The Blame Game

A man’s [or woman’s] own folly ruins his life,yet his heart rages against the Lord.

Proverbs 19:3 (NIV)

Jon Courson says, “A foolish man doesn’t listen to the Lord, seek the Lord, or walk with the Lord; yet, when he ends up in trouble, who does he blame? The Lord.”

That’s right. That’s exactly what we see in so many people’s lives. I want to talk about how we as women sometimes make bad choices. We cause trouble, get people upset, and burn bridges, but then we blame everyone else, including God. You know what? The blame game has no winners. There’s no prize. No one feels sorry for us. We just dig our own hole deeper.

So if this is you, if you find your life is a tangled mess, just stop pointing your finger at everyone else. Even if others have done you wrong, what you do now and how you live your life from this day on is entirely up to you. God is really for you. Don’t shut him out and don’t shut others out who love you and want to help.

Let me give you a little formula that can give you a place to start. Turn in your Bible to James 4:7-10: “Therefore, submit to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you. Draw near to God and He will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners; and purify your hearts, you double-minded. Lament and mourn and weep! Let your laughter be turned to mourning and your joy to gloom. Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and He will lift you up” (NKJV).

No matter how deep your hole is, there is no hole so deep that the long arm of our Father in heaven cannot reach you and pull you out.

Make It Personal . . . Live It Out!

Personal responsibility is a true sign of wisdom and maturity. The day we stop blaming others—our mothers, our ex-boyfriends or husbands, our mothers-in-law, our churches, and especially God—we are finally growing up.

Once we are willing to take personal responsibility for our own actions and attitudes we can—we will—see that God is for us. He will supply all the strength and guidance we need for a rich and full life.

One Year Bible Reading

1 Chronicles 11:1–12:18; Acts 28:1-31; Psalm 9:1-12; Proverbs 19:1-3