Guest Etiquette

Seldom set foot in your neighbor’s house—too much of you, and they will hate you.

Proverbs 25:17 (NIV)

Many of us have experienced those times when someone came into our homes and became a little too comfortable. They not only set their foot, they seemed to set up camp. They outstayed their welcome; meaning, when it was time to leave, they didn’t.

This stretches us, doesn’t it? For us as Christians maybe this is even good for us—to be stretched—because the Bible tells us to practice hospitality. Some of us might be a little out of practice. We live in a world where people often do not take the time to make others feel welcome or wanted. We have to be careful that we don’t become like the innkeeper in Bethlehem who hung out a sign, “No room at this inn.”

Hebrews 13:2 tells us, “Do not forget to entertain strangers, for by so doing some people have entertained angels without knowing it” (NIV). What a blessing this innkeeper missed when he turned away Joseph and his pregnant wife, Mary.

But actually, this proverb is not addressed primarily to the host or hostess; it’s addressed to us when we are the guests. As guests, we are always to be a blessing. It’s better to stay too short, leaving your hostess wishing you could have stayed longer, than for you to stay too long, leaving your hostess with the feeling she has had too much of you.

Make It Personal . . . Live It Out!

There are times when I am a guest, and times when I am the hostess for Bible study gatherings, dinners, or overnight stays. Here are some etiquette guidelines that will help you be a joy to have at any time.

• Your hosts have spent time and effort to prepare for your coming. Arrive with a contribution: a plate of cookies, flowers, or a special coffee.
• Be helpful. It’s fun to chat as you work alongside your hostess to tidy up. For overnight stays, leave the bathroom tidy and the bed linens stripped. Your departure should not leave a burden of work behind.
• Be interested and enjoy those around you. Get to know the children.
• Be thankful. A sweet note left on the table or sent in the mail will bring a smile.

One Year Bible Reading

Jeremiah 28:1–29:32; 1 Timothy 1:1-20; Psalm 86:1-17; Proverbs 25:17