The Peacemaker

The Peacemaker

God blesses those who work for peace, for they will be called the children of God.

Matthew 5:9

IF WE ARE GOING to understand each other, we must identify our personality differences. There are many personality types, all of which have positives and negatives, and in the next few days we’ll look at a few. Today we’ll look at the peacemaker. This is the calm, slow, easygoing, well-balanced personality. This person is typically pleasant, doesn’t like conflicts, seldom seems ruffled, and rarely expresses anger.

The peacemaker has emotions but does not easily reveal them. In a marriage, the peacemaker wants calm, tends to ignore disagreement, and avoids arguments at all costs. This person is very pleasant to be around; however, the downside of this personality is that conflicts are often left unresolved. If the couple does get into an argument, the peacemaker will try to calm the other person by acquiescing, even if he does not agree. He is kindhearted and sympathetic and wants everybody just to enjoy life. However, if a peacemaker is married to a controller, she may be steamrolled and eventually suffer in silent anger.

In the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus expressed blessing for the peacemakers and said that they will be called children of God. What a wonderful statement! James 3:18 gives a further accolade for this personality type: “Those who are peacemakers will plant seeds of peace and reap a harvest of righteousness.” If you are married to a peacemaker, thank God for it. Also, be careful not to take advantage of your spouse’s easygoing nature.

Father, I am thankful for my spouse’s desire to be a peacemaker. I know that you bless this attitude. Please help me to appreciate it fully, and not to use it for my own gain.

Peacemaker