Demolishing The Wall

Demolishing the Wall

Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results.

James 5:16

MANY COUPLES are at a stalemate because they have allowed a wall to develop between them. Walls are erected a block at a time. Each block represents one partner’s failure in a particular matter. It may be as small as failing to carry out the garbage or as large as failing to meet sexual needs. The one committing the failure often ignores it instead of dealing with it. Excuses are offered, such as, “After all, what does she expect? I’m doing my part.” Or “Why doesn’t he think of my needs?”

Often, one failure after another is ignored until a long, high, thick wall develops between two people who started out “in love.” Communication grinds to a halt, and only resentment remains.

Would you like to demolish the wall in your relationship? I can tell you how. You do it by tearing down those blocks of failure, one by one. Admit your failures as specifically as possible and ask your spouse to forgive you. If you begin to tear down the wall from your side, you make it easier for your spouse to begin demolition from the other side.

James 5:16 makes it clear that believers should confess their sins to each other. How much more true that is within the context of marriage, where those sins have directly affected the other person. Be willing to admit when you were wrong. If both of you are willing to tear down the wall of separation, you can clear away the rubble and build a beautiful relationship.

Thank you, Lord, for new beginnings. Please help us to be willing to tear down the old hurts, confess our failures, and begin again with forgiveness. Thank you for your constant forgiveness.

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