Attitude Influences Behavior

Always be joyful. Never stop praying. Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus.

1 Thessalonians 5:16-18

ONE REASON MY ATTITUDES are so important is that they affect my actions—that is, my behavior and words. If I have a pessimistic, defeatist, negative attitude, it will be expressed in negative words and behavior. The reality is that I may not be able to control my environment. Perhaps I have experienced such difficulties as sickness, an alcoholic spouse, a teenager on drugs, a mother who abandoned me, a father who abused me, a spouse who is irresponsible, aging parents, and so on. Any one of those situations can be overwhelming. But it’s crucial to realize that I am responsible for what I do within my environment. And my attitude will greatly influence my behavior.

First Thessalonians 5 gives us some key steps to developing a positive attitude. As we talked about in yesterday’s reading, being thankful can renew our perspective, reminding us of what God has already done for us and encouraging us that he will help in the future.

If you want to know your attitude, look at your words and behavior. If your words are critical, if your behavior is designed to hurt or get back at your spouse, then you have a negative attitude. Paul gives straightforward counsel in Philippians 2:14: “Do everything without complaining and arguing.” Following this advice and guarding your attitude are the most powerful things you can do to affect your behavior. And your behavior greatly influences your marriage.

Heavenly Father, when I have a bad attitude, it comes out in the way I talk to my spouse. Please forgive me for my sharp words and negativity. I want to set a goal to avoid complaining or arguing. Instead, please help me to rejoice, pray, and be thankful. I know the resulting positive attitude will bless my spouse and strengthen our marriage.

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