Modeling Friendships

Modeling Friendships

Imitate God, therefore, in everything you do, because you are his dear children.

“Mom, we’re basically twins,” my daughter’s voice bubbled from the backseat of the car. “We both like pink and unicorns and JoJo Siwa and Dork Diaries. We have so much in common!”

Smiling to myself, I listened as Elise continued to enumerate the qualities of her friend on our drive home. Her Girl Scout troop had worked on a friendship badge that evening, and the two friends had spent time talking about themselves in order to celebrate what they had in common. As the newest member of the troop, Elise was excited to experience camaraderie with the rest of the group.

I love to witness my children’s uncomplicated approach to friendship. Although the social waters are getting a bit murkier as my daughters race toward middle school, overall, things are still straightforward. Elise is often outgoing and doesn’t hesitate to reach out to others; Noelle’s soft personality innately draws others into her circle; and Ashlyn’s cheerful disposition and expressive face openly show her delight with others.

Even so, their moments of elation or disappointment over friends always serve as unique reminders to assess the friendships in my own life. In Ephesians, we’re told that we should strive to imitate God. After all, we are his children, adopted into his family. In the same way that I seek to follow the gracious and merciful example of my heavenly Father, I want my own example of healthy friendships to be something my children can reflect into the world without hesitation. Do I showcase empathy and genuine care for those around me? Do I speak negatively about others or wisely choose kind words of encouragement? Do I demonstrate the qualities it takes not just to attract friends, but to keep them?

As a parent, I have a responsibility to model healthy relationships, including friendships. Our gracious God began the good work of showing us what loving relationships are like. Let’s be conscientious about demonstrating those same admirable qualities to the children in our lives.

— Kristin

— Today’s Act of Friendship —

Take time to talk to a child in your circle of influence about healthy friendships.