Making Peace With The Black Sheep

Making Peace With The Black Sheep

Make every effort to keep yourselves united in the Spirit, binding yourselves together with peace. Ephesians 4:3

Everyone loves to talk about the black sheep of the family. They’re typically the first to be thrown under the bus when anything goes wrong, and we’re quick to judge their decisions. Though we say we care about them, our words often betray more gossip than concern.

When the family gets together, the black sheep can often become the elephant in the room. Everyone tries to tiptoe around the awkwardness, not saying what he or she really thinks and certainly not addressing the issue directly. But is this what Jesus would have us do?

In the New Testament, Jesus is portrayed as the Good Shepherd who drops everything to rescue a single wandering sheep. He searches until he finds it, and carries the sheep on his shoulders back to the rest of the flock. By the time the sheep rejoins the others, it is no longer a “black sheep.” Jesus has washed it white as snow.

We need to follow the example of Jesus and become good shepherds who welcome the black sheep back into the family fold. We need to love them the way Jesus loves them—and us—offering forgiveness and restoration.

Perhaps the black sheep in your family has an addiction or a psychological illness that disrupts the civility within your home. Call for help if you need it. Professional physicians, counselors, and addiction specialists stand ready to help carry the burden of a loved one’s illness. If your family member balks at the suggestion that he or she needs treatment, you may have to curb your tongue. Better yet, express your love and your desire for him or her to get well.

Call a truce, if necessary, to bring peace to your home and family, even if it means signing a treaty after a long-fought war. Opting for peace instead of chaos doesn’t mean you approve of everything the black sheep has done (or is doing), but it will help protect the relationship. Remember, Satan is the enemy, not your loved one. The goal should be for words of grace and peace to restore your loved one’s heart and soul.

TODAY’S RX

If your family is at war, seek help before it causes further pain and illness.

Jesus, thank you for never abandoning your sheep. Help me to have a heart of forgiveness and grace, so that I may reflect your love to others and have peaceful relationships.