The Pouting

The Pouting

Reading the Word

“Meanwhile, the older son was in the fields working. When he returned home, he heard music and dancing in the house, 26 and he asked one of the servants what was going on. 27 ‘Your brother is back,’ he was told, ‘and your father has killed the fattened calf. We are celebrating because of his safe return.’

28 “The older brother was angry and wouldn’t go in. His father came out and begged him, 29 but he replied, ‘All these years I’ve slaved for you and never once refused to do a single thing you told me to. And in all that time you never gave me even one young goat for a feast with my friends. 30 Yet when this son of yours comes back after squandering your money on prostitutes, you celebrate by killing the fattened calf!’” (Luke 15:25–30)

Setting the Scene

The older brother would receive twice as much of the inheritance as his sibling. And the story indicates that during the younger brother’s misadventure, this son continues to enjoy all the benefits of home.

During the joyous reunion, the older brother is “in the fields working” (v. 25), being responsible and contributing to the well-being of the family. When he returns from his hard work, probably dirty and sweaty, he encounters a grand celebration at the house; so he asks a servant “what was going on” (v. 26).

Upon learning that his reprobate brother has returned and that the party is for him, the older son is enraged and refuses to join the celebration or even to greet his wayward brother. Jesus contrasts the father’s response with the older brother’s. The father forgives because he is filled with love. The older son refuses to forgive because he is bitter about what he perceives as injustice. Actually, the older son is quite reasonable in his list of complaints. He reviews his résumé and argues from experience.

Getting Personal

In this story, the older son spews a torrent of pent-up anger and frustration, explaining that he has been slaving away for his father and accusing his father of “never” (v. 29) acknowledging his loyalty and hard work. Bitterness works that way—we selectively remember and build evidence for our case. Wallowing in self-pity and anger, this son ignores his father’s obvious love for him and the wonderful news about his brother. He would rather pout than party.

• What characteristics of the older brother do your see in yourself (positive and negative)?
• When have you felt resentment that a “notorious sinner” or prodigal received lots of attention, at home, church, or elsewhere? How did you deal with those feelings?
• What can you do to remember that your heavenly Father loves you just as much as any of your brothers and sisters in Christ?

Talking to God

Lord, I admit that I have acted like the older brother at times. I have been self-righteous and resentful, conveniently forgetting my sins and judging others. Forgive me. I want to bask in your grace and rejoice in every sinner who comes home.

Adapted from Life Application Study Bible Devotional by Dave Veerman and Neil Wilson (Carol Stream, IL: Tyndale House Publishers, 2011), used by permission.