How should I discipline my children? - Discipline - TouchPoints

How should I discipline my children?

Proverbs 13:24Those who love their children care enough to discipline them.

With love. Discipline is about relationships, not rules. It is about safety, not retaliation. Your goal is not revenge, but restoration, not to taunt, but to teach and redeem trust.

Proverbs 19:18Discipline your children while there is hope. Otherwise you will ruin their lives.

When they need it—before it is too late. Proper discipline puts your children back on the right path. If children wander off the path, it’s much easier to find the path again if they’re just a few feet from it. But if they’ve gone far off the path, it’s very difficult to find the way back. They are in danger of being hopelessly lost.

Ephesians 6:4Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.

Never in anger. It is difficult to make a good decision when you are consumed by anger. Your emotions are driving your thinking. Discipline given in anger is too often spiteful and harsh. It will too often shame a child rather than restore him or her.

Colossians 3:21Fathers, do not aggravate your children, or they will become discouraged.

Without causing aggravation and discouragement. Discipline will bring conflict and your kids probably will get mad at you. But aggravation is caused by constant nagging that says they are never good enough. It attacks their sense of value and worth instead of focusing on the immediate problem at hand.

Hebrews 12:10For our earthly fathers disciplined us for a few years, doing the best they knew how. But God’s discipline is always good for us, so that we might share in his holiness.

With godly wisdom. All parents will make some mistakes when disciplining their children. Since God’s discipline is always best, we need to constantly seek his wisdom. Remember, God’s wisdom comes from his Word, but it also comes from godly people who have been in his Word and practiced discipline.