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What should I do when I am brokenhearted?

Psalm 143:7-8Come quickly, Lord, and answer me, for my depression deepens. Don’t turn away from me, or I will die. Let me hear of your unfailing love each morning, for I am trusting you. Show me where to walk, for I give myself to you.

Call to the Lord for his help. Be honest with your feelings. Express your hope that he will be present with you every day into the future. He who made you can heal your broken heart. He who loves you will draw you close.

Psalm 119:28, 50, 52, 92I weep with sorrow; encourage me by your word. . . . Your promise revives me; it comforts me in all my troubles. . . . I meditate on your age-old regulations; O Lord, they comfort me. . . . If your instructions hadn’t sustained me with joy, I would have died in my misery.

God’s unchanging Word and character provide a backstop when we are brokenhearted. Our immediate circumstances may seem chaotic and out of control, but his faithfulness and guidance can keep us going.

Psalm 19:8The commandments of the Lord are right, bringing joy to the heart. The commands of the Lord are clear, giving insight for living.

Look to the Word of God for help. Meditate on God’s character, promises, and commitment to you. He who created the universe by his word can re-create a new spirit within you. His Word will comfort and encourage you.

Mark 14:34-36[Jesus] told them, “My soul is crushed with grief to the point of death. Stay here and keep watch with me.” He went on a little farther and fell to the ground. He prayed that, if it were possible, the awful hour awaiting him might pass him by. “Abba, Father,” he cried out, “everything is possible for you. Please take this cup of suffering away from me. Yet I want your will to be done, not mine.”

As Jesus knows firsthand, our moments of brokenheartedness can be very lonely. Friends may not understand what we’re going through; Jesus’ friends fell asleep instead of comforting him. Even God can seem distant. Like Jesus, our task in grief is to continue to trust that our heavenly Father knows what is best better than we do.

Luke 6:28Bless those who curse you. Pray for those who hurt you.

Look to God in honest prayer, for prayer puts us in touch with the source of all healing. When others have caused heartbreak by their intentional or unintentional insults, dare to ask God to bring good into their lives. He who created you for relationship longs to show you the freedom of treating others as you want to be treated.

Ecclesiastes 3:1, 4For everything there is a season. … A time to cry and a time to laugh. A time to grieve and a time to dance.

The mystery of life in a fallen world includes a significant helping of brokenheartedness. Everyone experiences the extremes of crying and laughing, grieving and celebrating. God uses the seasons of life to remind us that he has made us for eternity, where time will no longer be a factor (see Ecclesiastes 3:11).

2 Corinthians 2:4I wrote that letter in great anguish, with a troubled heart and many tears. I didn’t want to grieve you, but I wanted to let you know how much love I have for you.

Sometimes we must cause a broken heart as we try to heal a broken life. Often the heart we break will be our own. Love risks pain in order to help those we care about.

Acts 20:37They all cried as they embraced and kissed [Paul] good-bye.

Brokenhearted people need the freedom to express their emotions. Tears provide a means of expressing love beyond words. Express your emotions to trusted friends, your pastor, or a counselor. Sometimes God will provide comfort through the words and help of other believers.