What should I do when I am betrayed? - Betrayal - TouchPoints

What should I do when I am betrayed?

Matthew 10:21“A brother will betray his brother to death, a father will betray his own child, and children will rebel against their parents and cause them to be killed.”

Matthew 26:45“But look—the time has come. The Son of Man is betrayed into the hands of sinners.”

It is important to recognize that betrayal is an inevitable part of the human experience. Even Jesus was betrayed. This doesn’t make being betrayed easy, but it helps you realize that it doesn’t mean something is wrong with you.

Psalm 55:20-22As for my companion, he betrayed his friends; he broke his promises. His words are as smooth as butter, but in his heart is war. . . . Give your burdens to the Lord, and he will take care of you. He will not permit the godly to slip and fall.

Being betrayed is like suddenly hitting a sheet of ice while driving. Our basis for trust is gone, and we go into a dangerous skid. But when we turn to the Lord, it is like throwing sand on the road, restoring us to safety.

Hebrews 4:15This High Priest of ours understands our weaknesses.

There is comfort in the fact that because Jesus was betrayed, he personally understands your pain. He who has the power to help you has experienced your hurt himself.

Luke 22:33-34Peter said, “Lord, I am ready to go to prison with you, and even to die with you.” But Jesus said, “Peter, let me tell you something. Before the rooster crows tomorrow morning, you will deny three times that you even know me.”

Ephesians 4:31-32Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.

Continue to love and forgive those who betray you, as Jesus did (John 21:15-19). Love the betrayer, not the act of betrayal.

Jeremiah 12:6“Even your brothers, members of your own family, have turned against you. They plot and raise complaints against you. Do not trust them, no matter how pleasantly they speak.”

Matthew 10:16“Be as shrewd as snakes and harmless as doves.”

When you realize you cannot trust a particular person, act wisely and take steps to keep from getting hurt again. If you know someone is going to betray you, prepare yourself. Don’t fall for that person’s flattery. Think through how you will respond to the gossip that will spread about you. But you can do this without retaliation—with kind words and a forgiving heart. You can avoid revenge and grant forgiveness while still exercising prudent self-protection.

Genesis 50:19-20But Joseph replied, “Don’t be afraid of me. . . . You intended to harm me, but God intended it all for good. He brought me to this position so I could save the lives of many people.”

Recognize God’s hand in your life. Even when someone betrays you, God can pick up the pieces and make something good from your painful experience.

2 Timothy 2:13If we are unfaithful, he remains faithful, for he cannot deny who he is.

When others are unfaithful to you, you can take great comfort in God’s unwavering faithfulness. Anchor your faith and ultimate trust in the Lord.

Matthew 6:12-14“Forgive us our sins, as we have forgiven those who sin against us. And don’t let us yield to temptation, but rescue us from the evil one. If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you.”

Forgiveness is the only road to freedom. Nothing that anyone has done against you compares with what you have done against God. Refusing to forgive another means you don’t realize just how much God has forgiven you. A forgiven person forgives.