What do we do when we disagree? - Agreement - TouchPoints

What do we do when we disagree?

Philippians 3:15-16Let all who are spiritually mature agree on these things. If you disagree on some point, I believe God will make it plain to you. But we must hold on to the progress we have already made.

We should start with God’s truth as a point of agreement. Then it is easier to blend our divergent points of view.

James 1:5If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking.

2 Kings 1:3But the angel of the LORD told Elijah, who was from Tishbe, "Go and confront the messengers of the king of Samaria and ask them, 'Is there no God in Israel? Why are you going to Baal-zebub, the god of Ekron, to ask whether the king will recover?

2 Samuel 5:19So David asked the LORD, "Should I go out to fight the Philistines? Will you hand them over to me?" The LORD replied to David, "Yes, go ahead. I will certainly hand them over to you."

We can pray for God’s direction, and ask those we disagree with to pray as well. This will help us open our minds to find the most God-honoring solution.

1 Corinthians 6:3Don’t you realize that we will judge angels? So you should surely be able to resolve ordinary disputes in this life.

An eternal perspective is helpful in realizing how insignificant our ordinary earthly disagreements often are. Looking at the big picture puts the smaller issues into perspective.

Philippians 4:2-3Now I appeal to Euodia and Syntyche. Please, because you belong to the Lord, settle your disagreement. And I ask you, my true partner, to help these two women, for they worked hard with me in telling others the Good News. They worked along with Clement and the rest of my co-workers, whose names are written in the Book of Life.

We are to proactively help others settle disagreements, especially when those disagreements are hindering their Christian witness.

James 1:19Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry.

Acts 15:1-2, 6, 22, 25, 30-31While Paul and Barnabas were at Antioch of Syria, some men from Judea arrived and began to teach the believers: “Unless you are circumcised as required by the law of Moses, you cannot be saved.” Paul and Barnabas disagreed with them, arguing vehemently. Finally, the church decided to send Paul and Barnabas to Jerusalem, accompanied by some local believers, to talk to the apostles and elders about this question . . . So the apostles and elders met together to resolve this issue . . . Then the apostles and elders together with the whole church in Jerusalem chose delegates, and they sent them to Antioch of Syria with Paul and Barnabas to report on this decision. The men chosen were two of the church leaders—Judas (also called Barsabbas) and Silas . . . So we decided, having come to complete agreement, to send you official representatives, along with our beloved Barnabas and Paul . . . The messengers went at once to Antioch, where they called a general meeting of the believers and delivered the letter. And there was great joy throughout the church that day as they read this encouraging message.

Listening to one another helps us gather as much truth as possible and understand each other’s point of view. Seeking counsel among several godly people helps arrive at a consensus upon which most people can agree.

Acts 15:36-41After some time Paul said to Barnabas, “Let’s go back and visit each city where we previously preached the word of the Lord, to see how the new believers are doing.” Barnabas agreed and wanted to take along John Mark. But Paul disagreed strongly, since John Mark had deserted them in Pamphylia and had not continued with them in their work. Their disagreement was so sharp that they separated. Barnabas took John Mark with him and sailed for Cyprus. Paul chose Silas, and as he left, the believers entrusted him to the Lord’s gracious care. Then he traveled throughout Syria and Cilicia, strengthening the churches there.

There may be times when we must agree to disagree on some issues; however, the Lord’s work must continue. On that, we can agree.