I’ve Been Talking To Her All Week - The One Year Love Talk Devotional for Couples
I’ve Been Talking to Her All Week
The Spirit of God has made me, and the breath of the Almighty gives me life.
Job 33:4
Ever wondered about that classic difference in “word count” that some spouses seem to have in a given day? A true story our friend Gary Thomas tells in his book Sacred Marriage illustrates the subject.a
A businessman on an airplane made room for a younger man who had just sat down next to him. As they fastened their seat belts, the businessman, starting up a friendly conversation, asked whether the young man was traveling on business or pleasure.
“Pleasure,” said the young man. In fact, he was on his honeymoon. Seeing that the groom was alone, the businessman asked where the bride was.
“Oh, she’s a few rows back. The plane was full, so we couldn’t get seats together.”
Offering to change seats with the young man’s wife so that the couple could sit together, the businessman was surprised by the young man’s reply: “That’s okay. I’ve been talking to her all week.”
Ouch! That’s not a good sign for a brand-new marriage. On the other hand, some personality types actually do grow wearier of talking than others do—and it’s not necessarily a matter of gender. Some people, men and women, are simply content to be more quiet. They get “talked out” on occasion. And, as it happens, these people often end up marrying someone who, relative to themselves, is a “talker.” Of course, when the quiet partner begins to shut down—and doesn’t have the excuse of getting some alone time by being assigned a different airline seat—the talker can start to feel hurt and even lonely.
This is just one example of the great importance for spouses of studying each other’s personalities. If the two of you have never taken a personality assessment, it’s worth considering. Once you compare your results, you just might find that what you’ve been taking personally has little or nothing to do with you or the state of your relationship, and instead has to do with your partner’s personality. The Spirit of God made each of us, individually, and we are unique. That means there’s a lot to know about your spouse. It’s worth your while to get to know him or her!
So does this excuse the new husband on the airplane from not wanting to sit next to his bride? We’ll leave that up to you to discuss.
Love is the only way to grasp another human being in the innermost core of his personality.
—Viktor Frankl
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The One Year Love Talk Devotional for Couples
By Dr. Les Parrott and Dr. Leslie Parrott
Tyndale
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