The Power Of Apology - The One Year Love Language Minute Devotional
The Power of Apology
When I refused to confess my sin, my body wasted away, and I groaned all day long. . . . Finally, I confessed all my sins to you and stopped trying to hide my guilt. I said to myself, “I will confess my rebellion to the LORD.” And you forgave me! All my guilt is gone.
Psalm 32:3, 5
THE CLASSIC SEVENTIES movie Love Story advised us that true love means never having to say, “I’m sorry.” I don’t think they got it right, for one simple reason: We are all human, and humans are not perfect. All of us end up hurting the people we love most. Having a good marriage does not demand perfection, but it does require us to apologize when we fail.
When I say, “I’m sorry,” I’m expressing regret that my words or behavior have brought you pain. It’s a basic guideline for getting along with others. It also reflects the spiritual truth that to receive forgiveness, we first need to admit what we’ve done. Ignoring our sin doesn’t make it go away, as King David experienced before he wrote the words of Psalm 32. In fact, ignoring it often makes us feel far worse. But when we express regret for our wrongdoing and the hurt it caused, we pave the way for forgiveness and reconciliation. That’s true in our relationship with God as well as in our marriage.
When was the last time you said, “I’m sorry,” to your husband or wife? If it’s been a while, then you probably owe him or her an apology. Love means always being willing to say, “I’m sorry.”
God, sometimes it’s so hard to humble myself to say a simple “I’m sorry.” Help me not to take my spouse’s forgiveness for granted, but to be willing to admit when I am wrong.