Forgiving Each Other - The One Year Love Language Minute Devotional

Forgiving Each Other

Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.

Colossians 3:13

IN THE PAST TWO DAYS, we have talked about how to identify our failures and how to confess those failures to God and to our spouse. Now I want to talk about forgiveness.

When your spouse confesses past failures and requests your forgiveness, it is time to forgive. In fact, refusing to forgive is to violate the clear teachings of Jesus. He taught his disciples to pray: “[Father,] forgive us our sins, as we have forgiven those who sin against us” (Matthew 6:12). If we refuse to forgive when others confess to us and repent, we jeopardize our own forgiveness from God. The apostle Paul underscored this point in Colossians 3:13, when he wrote that we must forgive others because the Lord has forgiven us. And one of Jesus’ parables made clear that our “forgiveness debt” to the Lord is far greater than the debt anyone can “owe” us.

Nothing is to be gained by holding on to past failures. By contrast, a willingness to forgive opens the door to the possibility of future growth. Trust can be rebuilt and love restored. When a couple is willing to confess and forgive past failures, a marriage can move from a place of bitterness and hardship to a place of renewal and joy.

Father, I am so grateful for your forgiveness. Help me to extend that same gracious forgiveness to my spouse when he or she requests it, even when that’s hard. I know the benefits will be great.


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