Explaining Our Behavior - The One Year Love Language Minute Devotional

Explaining Our Behavior

O LORD, you have examined my heart and know everything about me. . . . Such knowledge is too wonderful for me, too great for me to understand!

Psalm 139:1, 6

THE ABOVE VERSES from Psalm 139 are some of the best loved in Scripture because they reveal that God knows us inside and out. He knows our thoughts, our feelings, and why we do the things we do. We can’t even comprehend that level of understanding, much less reproduce it. That’s why self-revelation is so important for a couple.

We’ve talked about sharing desires and emotions, but it’s important to share about our behavior as well. Your spouse can observe your behavior, but he or she may not interpret it correctly unless you explain it. For example, my wife may observe that I dozed off while she was talking to me. It would be helpful for me to say, “I’m sorry. I took a pill for my headache, and it’s making me sleepy. It’s not that I don’t want to listen to you.” That explanation helps her understand my behavior.

Explaining your behavior ahead of time can also be helpful. “I plan to mow the lawn as soon as I get home from the ball game.” Now she doesn’t have to fret all afternoon about the long grass while you are off to the ball game. She knows what you intend to do.

Revealing past behavior can also give your spouse valuable information. “Today I went by the furniture store and looked at a bedroom set. I like it, and I think it’s a good deal. I’d like you to look at it.” Explaining what you’ve done regarding a decision or request helps your spouse process it appropriately. All of these things promote understanding and intimacy.

Lord Jesus, thank you that you know us completely and love us anyway. Help us to aspire to a deeper knowledge of each other. Please encourage us as we learn to share about our behavior.


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