Mostly, Just Love - Know Your Worth
Mostly, Just Love
“Watch what God does, and then you do it, like children who learn proper behavior from their parents. Mostly what God does is love you.” Ephesians 5:1 (MSG)
I’ll be the first to admit that I’ve spent a lot of time feeling more critical of myself than loving. The challenges I faced growing up (living in poverty, experiencing my parents’ divorce at a young age, and enduring relentless bullying about my weight since kindergarten) set the tone for a harsh inner voice, and it has taken decades to rewrite the narrative.
For a long time, my response to the inner self-critic was to force change. In any capacity I could, I’d try to white-knuckle my way into losing weight or fitting in or achieving more. I thought those were the things that would make me feel less ashamed and more worthy.
But as I’ve walked with the Lord, I’ve learned more about his thoughts toward me, and that has challenged me to change my own thoughts about myself. I love this verse from Ephesians 5:1 (The Message) which says “Watch what God does, and then you do it, like children who learn proper behavior from their parents. Mostly what God does is love you.”
It’s easy to slip into striving when we are searching for significance. But if we take our cue from Jesus, it’s really quite simple. Mostly what he does, is love us. That means we could add up all the blessings he gives us, but the sum is still incomparable to what he does most, which is just… love us.
And he invites us to do the same: to pattern ourselves after him. The passage says, “watch what God does, and then you do it.” In other words, stop being so hard on yourself. Instead of white-knuckling your way into feeling better about yourself, what if you patterned yourself after God himself and mostly just… loved yourself.
Now, to be clear, I’m of course not talking about diving into toxic self-love culture. This passage goes on to talk about the different aspects of loving extravagantly, including loving others. There are so many ways to reflect the love of God. But we often forget to extend that beautiful gift of love in our relationship with ourselves. A quick glace through 1 Corinthians 13 will give you some extra insight about how to love, whether it be toward others, or toward yourself.
The next time your inner narrative tries to make you feel less than, unworthy, or unlovable, remember how extravagantly God loves you, and then live in light of that truth.